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❤️Why Your Marriage Shouldn't Follow Anyone Else's Rules

December 18, 20242 min read

Quote of the Day
"Be yourself; everyone else is already taken." — Oscar Wilde


Thought for the Day

Your marriage is as unique as the two people in it. It’s tempting to look at other couples and think, “Why can’t we be like them?” But comparison is the thief of joy. What works for others might not fit the dynamic between you and your spouse—and that’s okay!

Marriage isn’t about following a universal blueprint; it’s about creating one that’s tailored to your love, values, and dreams. It’s easy to adopt societal norms or advice from well-meaning friends and family, but those rules might not align with what feels natural for your relationship. Trying to force them can lead to unnecessary stress and disconnect.

Your relationship should reflect who you are as individuals and as a couple. By embracing your unique strengths and addressing challenges in a way that works for both of you, you’ll create a marriage that’s not only authentic but also deeply fulfilling.

Remember, there’s no one-size-fits-all formula for love. Your marriage is your masterpiece—paint it with the colors that bring you joy.


Actionable Advice

1. Define Your Own Marriage:
Take time today to sit with your spouse and talk about what makes your relationship unique. What values are most important to both of you? What traditions or routines bring you joy? Are there any expectations you’ve adopted from others that don’t serve you? Discuss these openly and create your own “marriage blueprint” based on mutual respect and understanding.

2. Focus on Your Strengths:
Identify the things that make your relationship special. Maybe it’s your shared sense of humor, your ability to support each other during tough times, or how you communicate. Celebrate these strengths and lean into them—they’re what set your marriage apart.

3. Shut Out Outside Noise:
Social media, family, and friends can sometimes create unrealistic expectations. Anytime you feel pressure from external sources, remind yourselves that your relationship doesn’t have to look like anyone else’s. Commit to staying true to what works for you.


Bonus Tip

The next time you feel influenced by outside opinions or comparisons, pause and ask yourself: Does this reflect who we are as a couple? If it doesn’t, let it go. Focus instead on building a marriage that feels authentic to both of you.


Concluding Thoughts

Every marriage has its own rhythm, and that’s what makes it beautiful. Your unique blend of strengths, quirks, and shared experiences is what sets your relationship apart. Don’t get caught up in comparison or external expectations. Instead, focus on designing a marriage that reflects your values and aspirations as a couple.

When you stay true to yourselves, you’ll create a relationship that’s not only fulfilling but also resilient—a partnership that thrives on authenticity, trust, and love.

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